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March 14, 2010

2 Fast 2 Furious

2 Fast 2 Furious
2 Fast 2 Furious (2003)

IMDB rating: 5.00

Plot: Former cop Brian O’Conner who teams up with his ex-con pal Roman Pearce to transport a shipment of ‘dirty’ money for shady Miami-based import-export dealer Carter Verone, while actually working with undercover agent Monica Clemente to bring Verone down.

Directors: Singleton John

Actors: Walker Paul,Gibson Tyrese,Hauser Cole,Ludacris,Barry Thom,Remar James,Nolasco Amaury,Ealy Michael,Auyeung Jin,Finlay Edward,Boone Junior Mark,Gallini Matt,Sanchez Roberto ‘Sanz’,Action,Crime,Drama,Thriller,

I disagree with a gymnastic coach – who's right (ref: splits for 6 year old girl)?
Just over a year ago my daughter attended a local gymnastics club and was in the squad from age 4-5 as she had a natural ability. When she was 5 she started to get upset because she was being forced down into the splits and it really hurt her. One time she couldn’t walk properly for a few days where she was over stretched. After speaking to the club after the first 2 times, I was furious when it happened a 3rd time and I pulled her out + had serious words with the club and told them it was tantamount to child abuse. I did gymnastics as a child and was never "pushed down".

Just as I was pulling my daughter out, her best friend then age 5 started training – and was also on a fast track. She recently just tried out for the squad and the training pace has been stepped up. She’s now 6. Last week she started crying and didn’t want to go to gymnastics. She said that her coach is pushing her down in the splits and she didn’t like it. Her mum will see how it goes and pull her out if she doesn’t want to go anymore but she did speak to the Gymnastics Club who told that that children need to be pushed as the body won’t do it naturally. Since the mum has never done gymnastics before she’s not sure what to believe.

However, I think the opposite. I did gymnastics as a child and my thoughts on the splits are this:-

Training for the splits should stretch you to the point of being uncomfortable but not be unbearable pain and then you should stop at that point. Continual practice will gradually see the point of discomfort change until eventually she will be able to do the splits. Ideally her daughter should be controlling the splits and her comfort zone – and doing it little but often. However I baulk at a coach (not sure if they are a trained "coach" or another gymnast who is helping teach the younger children) PUSHING a child down and hurting them. To my mind the coach should be saying "tell me when it hurts"…"can you go a bit further?"…."stop if it hurts too much"…."hold"….now come up.

Speaking to my sister who is an osteopath, I’m also given to understand that a 6 year olds body is more pliable and the ligaments aren’t fully formed – so there is a potential for injury (life long in some cases) if the child is continually forced/overstretched into the splits. .

I told the mother I’d come on here and ask the community to find out "Who is right?"


I think you are wise to remove your daughter from this gym. Voicing your concerns to the coach isn’t going to help. To them, you are just an over-protective parent. Voicing them to the gym owner might help, but it’s unlikely. Object with your money. That message is heard loud and clear everytime.

Weather you think your right or not doesn’t really matter. You are uncomfortable with the method, and your daughter doesn’t want to attend this gym because of it. That’s more then plenty of reason to switch gyms.

Gymnastics isn’t viewed as a "sport" for young children. It’s just recreation with a purpose. If the gym coaches remove the fun and enjoyment for the sake of advancement – it’s pointless to attend. Personally I loath coaches that over-work young kids, and there are a lot of coaches that do. Gymnastics should be a fun and happy memory. It shouldn’t be a memory of pain. Especially unnessesary pain.

Now to your question:
Coach assisted static stretches were once a very common practice. It’s still a method used by eastern countries (China) where the opinions and feelings of young athletes are basically ignored. The method has been backed away from in many other countries. Few gyms in the US still use this method anymore as it could indeed be painful to the athlete and expensive if the athlete needs medical attention. Liability is also a major and costly concern.

This doesn’t mean coaches can’t adjust an athletes form – we do all the time. If we add any pressure, it’s minimal and consistant. It’s very slowly and deliberately applied. I think I can count on one hand how many athletes actually told me to stop in all my years of coaching. The pressure applied just isn’t that much. Nothing like is seen in many of the gymnastic "horror stories" videos, which show children in tears. As If tears aren’t enough…

Only muscles stretch. Ligaments and connective tissue do not – and should not. Only the athlete can tell how much is too much. No coach, no matter how trained or experienced, can determine the appropriate overforce for any athlete of any age. This does risk injury.

Your sister is partially correct. Young children are very pliable and they will stretch longer/wider. But this is without too much fear of any permanent damage. Children are naturally very bendy. Especially if they have been busy and thier muscles are warm and tired. For many children, the level of tolerance to pressure is quite low. What they call ‘painful’ is more often just ‘uncomforable’, and anything past this is more shock then real pain. But this doesn’t answer the concern about "real" pain! How much is too much? Again, only the athlete can answer this question. A coach doesn’t "know". They are simply guessing. It’s gambling without fear.

In my opinion, the old saying "no pain, no gain" is stupid, and physiologically flawed. If there is pain — there is something wrong. the result is NO gain. Making pain something every athlete wants to avoid.

Coach Alice ATC/PT | Jan 26, 2010


that sounds evil tell someone who is experienced (ask at another gymnastics club) if they say its bad report the club.
Alfie | Jan 26, 2010


its obvious to me that the club she is attending gymnastics, is extremely competitive, I have been doing gymnastics for 10 years and splits should only be stretched to the point that you are uncomfortable, not to the point where you are basically breaking legs, i would also have your daughter checked out by the doctor, cause my friend permanately damaged tissues in that area because of over stretching spilts, its very dangerous and should not be practiced the way they are making those little girls do them. definately try to find a new gym in your area, and if not, make sure she stretches on her own at home, and refuse to stretch them at gymnastics. no matter what.
scared and confused | Jan 26, 2010


forcing anyone, especially children, because their bodies aren’t completely developed to bend in ways that they can’t.
to be practicing their splits, they should be stretching until they can do them.
not being forced to do them without stretching.
they will have bad pulled muscles and could result in a lifetime problem.

to correctly stretch for splits, they should hold until it hurts for ten seconds then shake it off, and try again.
Sami | Jan 26, 2010


I’d have to agree that you should take it gradually. I don’t think they should force her down like that.
herbivore | Jan 26, 2010

March 13, 2010

Perfect Assistant, The

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Perfect Assistant, The
Perfect Assistant, The (2008)

IMDB rating: 3.80

Plot: Rachel Parsons is the perfect assistant, but she’s completely in love with her boss. She’s got a secret obsession: be her wife and have kids. The problem is that he already has a family.

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Directors: Jackson Douglas

Actors: Potter Chris,Harper Jason,Hopkins Paul,Crime,Mystery,Thriller

Is it alright to send a thank-you note to an interviewer through e-mail?
I had an interview at a bridal store for an entry-level assistant position today, and it was pretty informal. All of hour communication so far has been through e-mail, and for the "interivew" we just stood around talked for a bit. I’ve sent hand-written notes before, but I fear that sending on this time won’t make it in time.

She told me she liked me a lot, and that I was perfect for the job, but she had to honor the other interviewees and meet with them before she made a decision. Any help is appreciated, thank you!


Yes, email thank you’s are absolutely acceptable these days. While it is nice to do hand-written notes, employers have adapted quite well to the electronic communication methods.

Good luck on the job!

LA Boston Gal | Jan 03, 2010


YES.
it looks very proffesional. from your part.
Bella | Jan 03, 2010

March 11, 2010

Scarface

Scarface
Scarface (1983)

IMDB rating: 8.00

Plot: When Castro opened the port at Mariel Harbor, thousands of Cubans fled to the United States. One is a young tough named Antonio (Tony) Montana, who, with his friend Manny Ray, starts in with Miami’s cocaine trade. He survives attack by chainsaw after a deal goes bad, and several other attempts by other dealers to eliminate him. Eventually the grandiose Montana becomes head of a cocaine cartel. But his enemies start coming after him, and his paranoia threatens to drive Montana’s empire into the ground…

Directors: De Palma Brian

Actors: Pacino Al,Bauer Steven,Loggia Robert,Abraham F. Murray,Shenar Paul,Yulin Harris,Salazar Angel,Santana Arnaldo,Serna Pepe,Moran Michael P.,Israel Al,Holahan Dennis,Action,Crime,Drama,Thriller,

what kinda of gun was that Al Pachino used at the end of Scarface?
Just got done watchin scarface for the 100th time lol anyway was just curious what kind of gun he used at the end AR-15?


Tony Montana (Al Pacino) uses an M16A1 with a Fake M203 grenade launcher attached during the final battle. In one of the film’s more memorable moments Tony yells out "Say hello to my little friend!" and blows a door down with a 40mm grenade, killing several of Sosa’s men.

feelflows | Mar 13, 2009

Capote

Capote
Capote (2005)

IMDB rating: 7.60

Plot: On the night of 14 November 1959, in Holcomb, Kansas, a farmhouse is broken into by the criminals Perry Smith and Dick Hickock that expect to get US$ 10,000.00. With the policy of “no witness”, the murderers kill the entire family. The homosexual writer Truman Capote travels to the small town with his friend Nelle Harper Lee and decide to use the topic to write a book. When the killers are arrested, he becomes friend of Perry for his own interest and then he falls in love for him, and gets a new lawyer for them, postponing their execution until 14 April 1965.

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Directors: Miller Bennett

Actors: Hoffman Philip Seymour,Archibald Craig,Barnes David Wilson,Burg Michael J.,Ameyaw Kwesi,Farago Andrew,Krotowich Ken,Cooper Chris,Reid R.D.,McLaughlin Rob,Biography,Crime,Drama,

Your favorite book of all time and why ?
Mine is Breakfast at Tiffany’s.
I love the inspiration, strength and motivation Truman Capote can give me through Holly Golightly :)


Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen.
I love the idea of a couple thats not "perfect for each other" and hits it off right away, and really cliche like a lot of other books. The charactersare constantly making mistakes, yet in the end, they wind up together.
It also teaches us that first impressions are not always best. It was a wonderful read.

Chanda Lynn *mommy to be* | Jan 09, 2010


On the Jellicoe Road by Melina Marchetta. It really keeps you guessing until the very, very last chapter. I’ve read it about a thousand times and I can still get something out of it.
Ellen | Jan 09, 2010


‘The BFG’ – I’ve never enjoyed reading a book so much. Mind you, I was eight years old at the time.
Bob Sacamano | Jan 09, 2010


I have about 80 but I obviously don’t read the same genre of books are yourself =[. I haven’t been able to get passed Sarah Dessen/Young Adult books. I did, however, like To Kill A Mockingbird and Animal Farm not that those are really the same thing either. I’d have to go for either The Nature of Jade by Deb Caletti, any book by Sarah Dessen, or Jellicoe Road by Melina Marchetta.
Sarah | Jan 09, 2010


History of Love – Nicole Krauss.
Absolutely beautiful! Metaphorical and poetic. It will make you smile and cry.
Lala | Jan 09, 2010


i’ve never been able to pick a favorite book, but i have a couple of ones i especially liked. all of Roald Dahl’s books are amazing, and so is A Little Princess, if you want to talk children’s books. those books just draw you in.

i guess my favorite books for adults are anything by Stephen King, or Water for Elephants by Sarah Gruen. both of those authors just have such original ideas and unique, descriptive writing styles.
**~Sucre Noir~** | Jan 09, 2010


im currently reading my fave book
it’s called evermore by alyson noel
its really good and i cant put it down!
Patriot Girl | Jan 09, 2010


I cant stop thinking about this book I just read. It is called Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult. It was an amazing book and I am so happy I read it.
cupcake | Jan 09, 2010


I have many that are right up there, but I think it would be The Hunger Games trilogy. I thought it was very well writen, unique, and face paced. I also loved the little love triangle going on, cause what’s a book without romance right? ;)
The Nom Nom Raptor ^-^ | Jan 09, 2010


Hmm I have a lot but probably the noughts and crosses series by Malorie Blackman because it is so tragic it is sometimes distressing sometimes and sometimes heartrendingly sad. It is about discrimination and injustice and brutal violence but it is also a love story. It is about Sephy who is a cross (one of the ruling class, dark skinned) and Callum a nought ( light skinned and were once slaves to the crosses) they have been friends since they were little and there feelings for each other are becoming stronger, but how can they love one another in a world so full of hatred? Callums brother Jude has become part of a nought terrorist group, when a bomb goes of and Callum knows about it Sephy wonders if Callum is a part of it.
rox and ruby rock ! :D | Jan 09, 2010


Mine was the "Deathnote: Another note the los angeles bb murder cases, because I’m a fan of the TV show
MelloReeses | Jan 09, 2010


Shiver – By Maggie Stiefvater.
I just loved the whole book unconditonally. I thought the cover was beautiful – It was well written. It had an amazing and unique storyline and it had Wolves in it (My all time favourite animal). I loved everyhting about and I am so glad there is two other books in the series!

Also I love the Harry Potter series.
I always have and I’ve read the series 20+ Times now.
I normally read them when I’m scared or upset or worried because Harry Potter is the one book world I can properly lose myself in!
Lucyy

March 6, 2010

Lethal Weapon

Lethal Weapon
Lethal Weapon (1987)

IMDB rating: 7.50

Plot: Los Angeles police sergeant Roger Murtaugh, who has just turned 50 years old, is assigned to investigate the death of Amanda Hunsaker, a prostitute who is one of the daughters of bank president Michael Hunsaker, a friend whom Roger has known since they were in the Vietnam War together, but Roger hasn’t seen Michael in 12 years. Beginning with this investigation, Roger is assigned a new partner Sergeant Martin Riggs, who has been suicidal ever since his wife Victoria “Vicky” Lynn Riggs died in a car crash in 1984. Riggs and Murtaugh’s investigation of Amanda’s death reveals that she was murdered. Upon hearing of this, Michael tells Murtaugh that he would like for whoever is behind Amanda’s murder to end up dead, like Amanda. Riggs and Murtaugh’s investigation continues and it makes them the targets of Shadow Company, a group of former Vietnam War era mercenaries who now bring heroin into the Los Angeles County region. Shadow Company’s leader, General Peter McAllister, and his right hand man, Mr. Joshua, want Riggs and Murtaugh dead, no matter what the cost.

Directors: Donner Richard

Actors: Gibson Mel,Glover Danny,Atkins Tom,Busey Gary,Hines Damon,Ryan Mitch,Kalmenson Bill,Cameron Patrick,Gordon Don,Skaggs Jimmie F.,Thriller,Comedy,Crime,Action,

Lethal weapon: Gang gun fished out of Fraser River | VANCOUVERITE

VANCOUVER – A lethal weapon used in several gang shootings was fished out of the Fraser River and police say it is a “silent killing machine.”

Insp. Brad Desmarais said the Mac-11 was wrapped in water-proof neoprene bag and was discovered by someone who was fishing on the river two weeks ago.

The gun was fitted with a silencer and is capable of firing 1200 rounds per minute, he said.

“Subsequent forensic testing has confirmed this weapon is linked to a number of gang-related shootings in the Vancouver area.

March 4, 2010

Wall Street

Wall Street
Wall Street (1987)

IMDB rating: 7.30

Plot: Bud Fox is an ambitious stock trader who will do just about anything to get into the big leagues. He has been actively courting Gordon Gekko, one of the biggest stock speculators on Wall Street. Gekko manipulates the market using inside information and his motto best describes his approach: greed is good. Nothing will stop him from pursuing a good deal and he takes advantage of Bud’s burning to desire to succeed. Soon, Bud finds himself getting information from any source and using to gain an advantage. It all comes to a head however when Gekko targets Blue Star airlines, the company where Bud’s father has worked for 24 years, secretly planning to break it up and plunder the employees’ retirement fund.

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Directors: Stone Oliver

Actors: Sheen Charlie,Cover Franklin,Pfeiffer Chuck,McGinley John C.,Holbrook Hal,Karen James,Douglas Michael,Adonis Frank,Capodice John,Sheen Martin,Crime,Drama,

Should we just accept that the banking system needs to be bailed out now and then?
People freaked out about the bank bailouts, but the truth is, that’s just the price we pay for having a creative and dynamic financial sector.

The upside is that – during good times – Wall Street really rakes in the money and helps the entire economy, and makes America wealthier.

The downside is that – now and then – the banks will go too far, and they need to be bailed out by the government.

Both political parties in America accept this reality, but the American people seem kind of immature when it comes to this issue.

But look – when Wall St. needs a bailout, no president will ever turn them down. Bush AND Obama have cabinet secretaries from companies like Goldman Sachs. And Congress gets a huge amount of campaign money. So, they won’t complain too much.

Why don’t we just establish a permanent bank tax that goes into a bailout fund? That way, the next time they need a bailout, we can tap into the fund instead of the general federal budget.


A vote for either of the major parties is a wasted vote.

Either way, voting Republican or Democrat is a vote to bankrupt yourself.

Yet millions of Americans, are still voting to bankrupt themselves even though the cost to pay off the public debt (federal, state, county, municipal and schools) now comes to over $50,000 per citizen.

That means that someone who has kids needs to pony up for their kids also.

It’s time for Americans to abandon the two party farce that has abandoned Americans through bankruptcy.

Liberals = Green Party
Moderates = Libertarian Party
Conservatives = Constitution Party

Source(s):
http://www.debtclock.org

http://www.constitutionparty.com

Zero1 | Feb 05, 2010


Capitalism fixes itself. Old things die, and a better version replaces it. Bailouts keep the old shitty versions alive.
Matthew | Feb 05, 2010


Bailouts create a Morale Hazard. If they were to fail, they would be taken over and forced to operate profitably and responsibly. Now they know they can do whatever they please and someone else will pay the price.
Stereotypemebecauseyouknow | Feb 05, 2010


So you’re basically saying those at the top get to stay at the top REGARDLESS of how much money they lose, how badly they fk over their companies or how much money they must steal from the tax payer to subsidize their wallstreet gambling losses.

Hell no we shouldn’t accept that.

"MORAL HAZARD" would be an understatement.
Water Over Gold | Feb 05, 2010


You are correct in that no President will ever turn down Wall St when it needs a bailout. Imagine the sound of a 1000 dropped jaws if Ron Paul was President and Wall St needed a bailout.
Herb | Feb 05, 2010


Let it crash! No more tax money to AIG and Goldmen Sachs!!!!!!
Nacho | Feb 05, 2010


For 50 years, banking regulations worked well and it wasn’t until the 1980s when the first changes to banking regulations since the great depression were made whent the first major banking crisis occurred (S&L crisis) since the great depression. Then in 1999, the greatest barrier of all was removed (Glass-Stegall) and within less than 10 years, the country was almost back into another great depression.

The world cannot afford to go through the current situation every ten years unless they want the developed counties to turn into third world countries. Everytime a banking crisis like this occurs, wealth shifts very fast from the middle class to the rich (much faster than normal).
Mike | Feb 05, 2010


When bankers stop giving themselves $100,000,000 in bonuses, then we can talk. Until then – NO.
chloe | Feb 05, 2010

March 1, 2010

Rapid Fire

Rapid Fire
Rapid Fire (1992)

IMDB rating: 5.60

Plot: When student Jake Lo witnesses a killing, he finds himself caught between two feuding drug lords. Betrayed and set up by the federal agents protecting him, the only one he can trust is Ryan, a single-minded Chicago cop who reminds Jake of his deceased father. To clear his name, Jake agrees to help Ryan bring down the drug lords.

Directors: Dwight H. Little

Actors: Lee Brandon,Boothe Powers,Mancuso Nick,Barry Raymond J.,Ma Tzi,Longo Tony,Chan Michael Paul,Nguyen Dustin,Wallace Basil,Leong Al,Chau Francois,O’Brien Quentin,Howard D.J.,Action,Crime,Drama,Thriller,

homework. help. please. ???!?!?!?!?!? <3 10pts?
Question 1 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

Which of the following is NOT an effect of deforestation?

Destruction of natural habitat

Increased erosion

Enhanced natural beauty

Less carbon dioxide exchange

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Question 2 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

What population would be affected the greatest by rerouting a river for crop irrigation?

A population of fish that lives downstream

Farmers that live upstream

Migratory herds that drink from the waters

A population of people that live downstream

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Question 3 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

All of the following are generally human causes of deforestation except

urban use

forest fires

logging

creation of pasture for cattle

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Question 4 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

One of the primary components of fertilizer is ____________ which can be harmful if it gets in drinking water

table salt

nitrogen

cow pies

potassium

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Question 5 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

Which of the following processes will increase the chance of erosion in an area?

urbanization

deforestation

toxification

desertification

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Question 6 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

The absorbing of the sun’s heat by concrete and asphalt can have the following effect on an urban area

Higher temperatures than surrounding areas

Unpredictable weather patterns

Increased levels of acid rain

Rapid deterioration of buildings

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Question 7 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

All of the following are disadvantages of dams except

high cost

damage to the environment

hydroelectric power

land erosion

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Question 8 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

A large area in a semi dry climate has been greatly affected by a decrease in rainfall over the last several years. This area is in danger of

urbanization

deforestation

toxification

desertification

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Question 9 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

Urbanization can cause problems with

Flooding in cities

Soil fertility in nearby farms

Growth rates of trees in nearby forests

Regional weather patterns

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Question 10 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

Water pollution can be caused by all of the following except

Urbanization

Excessive fertilization

Rerouting a river

Mining

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Question 1 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points)

Which of the following is NOT an effect of deforestation?
Enhanced natural beauty
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February 25, 2010

Charlie

Charlie
Charlie (2004)

IMDB rating: 5.40

Plot: Set in post WWII Britain, the compelling drama traces the rise and fall of Charlie Richardson (Luke Goss) who has gone down in history as the most notorious and powerful crime lord in London.

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Directors: Needs Malcolm

Actors: Goss Luke,Berkoff Steven,Grantham Leslie,Weyers Marius,McFerran Douglas,Kirkwood Langley,Kranenburg Jeroen,Arden Mark,Longhurst Tony,Curran Chris,Brent Andrew,Young Bruce,Carrick Antony,Action,Crime,Drama,

who are the girls from Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo video by Blood Hound Gang?

February 23, 2010

Today You Die

Today You Die
Today You Die (2005)

IMDB rating: 3.90

Plot: A crook with a conscience takes on the men who turned on him in this action thriller. Harlan Banks (Steven Seagal) is a world-class thief who has always picked his own jobs and tried to pull heists that would leave him room to help out others; he also has powerful psychic abilities and can punish a man simply with the powers of his mind. But the work keeps getting riskier, and at the urging of his girlfriend, Banks has decided to pull one final job, going in with some men who are planning a 20-million-dollar casino robbery in Las Vegas. Banks is double-crossed by his new partners, and while he gets away with the money, Banks also ends up behind bars. Now his fellow crooks want the cash and will do anything to get it, but Banks isn’t eager to part with a hard-earned dollar, and with the help of Ice Cool (Anthony Criss, aka hip-hop star Treach), he busts out of prison to claim what’s his.

Directors: FauntLeRoy Don E.

Actors: Seagal Steven,Criss Anthony ‘Treach’,Mancuso Nick,Miano Robert,Tighe Kevin,McShane Jamie,Turner Lawrence,Rice Brett,Mancuso Lance Jonathan,James Hawthorne,Frye David,Action,Crime,

I need your advice/opinion on this. Thanks in advance!! :) ?
This is a song I wrote today, I need to add music. But I’d like to know what you think of the lyrics,
Thank you.

The difference

February 21, 2010

Summer of Sam

Summer of Sam
Summer of Sam (1999)

IMDB rating: 6.50

Plot: Spike Lee’s take on the “Son of Sam” murders in New York City during the summer of 1977 centering on the residents of an Italian-American South Bronx neighborhood who live in fear and distrust of one another.

Summer of Sam

Directors: Lee Spike

Actors: Leguizamo John,Brody Adrien,Rispoli Michael,Guerra Saverio,Tarantina Brian,Palagonia Al,Garito Ken,Starr Mike,LaPaglia Anthony,Smith Roger Guenveur,Gazzara Ben,Crime,Drama,Romance,Thriller,

Are my "friends" really friends?
My problem is that I am suspicious of my other friends b/c the other day when I offered AND gave two of them a ride home from school I asked them what they had done on their days off. (They are best friends). They looked at each other and laughed a little, replying that they had been together both days off and had had a sleepover on one of the days. The day they said the sleepover was on (Wednesday) I had gone out with our other friend and she had asked me what I was doing later that day. I said nothing, and it was dismissed. Now I’m wondering if they had a sleepover without me? What do you think? I am suspicious b/c over the summer my friend Sam in our group had a party and invited everyone but me. I think it was b/c i embarassed her in class months before, but after apologies were accepted, I thought we were ok (it was just a joke). I found out but haven’t confronted her, although I think she knew I found out. I can’t blame her, we have dry conversations and are overly nice to eachother, she’s hinted we’re not great friends b/c for christmas she got my other friends "BFF" necklaces and bracelets and got me a plain heart necklace. So I’m pissed at her but I didn’t think anything bad of my other friends..

Oh, and After my mom had dropped my two friends off she was kinda annoyed, and I’m like, "what?" and she’s like, "well I wouldn’t have given them a ride home if I knew they weren’t gonna invite you over" <–The 2 of them live really close and usually just hang out…so I started getting pissed about it b/c my mom was right and she even noticed it.

I thought I was really close with one of these girls b/c last year she thought she was fatally ill and I was the ONLY one she talked to about it (she didn’t even tell her bffl). we talked on the phone and when she was ok I brought in cookies for her to celbrate (went out at 9 the night before). So we were close but this year she seemed closed off so I started getting really polite and uptight with her…now I don’t know where we’re at. But my friends always talk to me in school and laugh at my jokes and want to hang out in class…so htat’s where I’m at.
I don’t want to make a big deal of it b/c when one of my friends (who has a dry sense of humor) said she came over my house b/c my bro’s hot team was over, I got mad and she said "I’m jk. It’s not like the guys were even there the whole time I was, so I didn’t see them that much."
And when I was with one of my close friends whose the only one I feel I can trust I mentioned that I hoped noone talked behind my back (I was regarding that party Sam planned so carefully w/o me) and she said "We would never talk about you" looking right at me. I don’t want to make a big deal of things now..


friends are flaky, I wouldnt dismiss a friendship based on this one thing. Also, I dont know if this is the case with girls, but for guys sometimes I find myself not hanging out with the same person all the time, like you see "too much" of a friend for awhile and dont really talk to them for awhile. Then like a month later you might see them and be good pals again.

ltvolt | Jan 30, 2010


tell them how you feel. if they are "real friends" they will understand and hang out with you and include you. if they do not care it is time for some new friends.
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